Stumbling Into Self

Hey there!

Can you see it?

Can you feel it?

In case you’re wondering what I am talking about. I am talking about whether you can see your actualized self achieving your ultimate dreams.

Often times, in my life I have found myself lost meandering through routines after routines while searching for a compass to point me in the right direction.

Give me something I would say.

A sign!


But alas nothing would materialize.

Nothing at all!

Despondent, I would carry on and on and I would make leaps after leaps into several unknown locations. These would constantly leave cuts and scrapes. Over time, these cuts and scrapes became scars.

Scars I was ashamed of.

But something interesting happened one day as I sat on the floor trying to pick myself up from yet another stumble.

My scars didn’t look so ugly to me anymore. A memory started to come to me.

I was reminded of something Ralph Waldo Emerson once said:

“to be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

These words that have made their way to my ears so often suddenly struck a chord with me in a way that I hadn’t felt before. All of a sudden, I found myself standing.

The clues had always been there. I had been searching for something that always lived in me. My Identity.

No, it was more than that. I was searching for comfort in my Identity.

Comfort in my identity led to an appreciation of my story and my story is my passion.

You see, in the past, I got in trouble seeking validation from external sources without cultivating my internal joy.

Through my joy, I found my courage.

So in my upright stance, I began to see it and to feel it.

Tayo Rockson

Tayo Rockson is an avid lover of sports, marketing and non profit who loves helping and meeting new people. This blog is a refection of all he has learned. You can reach him at or on Twitter at @TayoRockson.

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