The Paradox of Arguing

I just knew she was wrong and I was not prepared to give in. 

Seriously I was so married to an idea that ran counter to what she thought but I couldn’t quite articulate why I believed she was wrong.

So Instead of backing down, I kept arguing and before I knew it, an hour had passed.


Have you ever felt this way before?

I find that a lot of us do this. 

We argue just to argue 

And when we are pushed to defend our points, we either flounder or get LOUDER!

Who do we serve when we do this though?

Because if we can’t defend our points, then we are missing opportunities to educate. 

So next time this happens to you, I encourage you to pause and truly examine your beliefs.

Understand why you believe what you are saying. 

Do you get into arguments because it’s popular and it makes you look cool?


Do you get into arguments because fundamentally, you know you're right.  

Either way, honor your thoughts and actions with integrity because if you don’t, you risk an opportunity to learn or to teach.

Tayo Rockson

Tayo Rockson is an avid lover of sports, marketing and non profit who loves helping and meeting new people. This blog is a refection of all he has learned. You can reach him at or on Twitter at @TayoRockson.

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