The Power Of Now

I think too many people wait for other people to tell them what to do before they do it. It's almost like there's some sort of gratification we receive from hearing the words "it's your time. Go get it!"

The only problem with this is that this type of succession rarely happens!

Seriously though! It rarely happens. Other than in relay races and some family run businesses, it's not a very common thing. 

What's even more interesting to me is that a lot of us know that this succession does not exist.

Yet... we wait.

Why do we wait?

  • We think we have more time.
  • We are afraid of failure
  • We are afraid of success
  • We don't feel ready

What are the consequences of waiting?

  • Our dreams die everyday
  • The world doesn't wait
  • We miss out on a chance to grow
  • We miss out on a chance to make an impact

Doing nothing while the world around us changes makes us victims to excuses. We begin to give ownership of our dreams to outside forces and before you know it, you become lost in a world you never imagined for yourself.

So how can we change this?

It all starts with self-discipline or self-love or self-discipline...

AHHH... They are the same thing!!!

Self-love = Self-discipline.

Will Smith once said, “when you say that you love yourself, that means that you have behavior towards yourself that is loving” and he was right. That's exactly what discipline is.

OK let's get started on that loving.

State Your Legacy: The first thing you need to do is to state your legacy. What do you want to be remembered for?

Set Targets: Give yourself deadlines for goals you plan to achieve in three months, six months, 1 year, 3 years and 5 years. You need to give your brain and heart something to train for.

Rearrange Your Environment: Get rid of your depressors and surround yourself with elevators. Your depressors are people who constantly bring you down by whining, complaining or being negative. Your elevators are those who elevate and challenge you to be the best version of yourself. You're the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

Create Accountability: Find someone you can trust and respect and tell them about your mission. If you're feeling ambitious, find several people for different goals but whatever you do, be clear with why you chose them and why you want to achieve this dream. This makes them feel part of your mission and it builds trust. Great accountability is a two way street.  

Examine your day to day habits: Keeping track of your day to day habits. This not only helps you form new habits to achieve your goals; it also helps you break  your bad habits as well. Track your activities everyday and see how they relate to that legacy plan you set for yourself.

Don't get stuck with paralysis by analysis! Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try. It doesn't matter what others are doing. It matters what you are doing. It's not how you start, it's how you finish. As Ralph Marston once said, "what you do today can improve all your tomorrows." There is power in the now so START & USE YOUR DIFFERENCE TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE.

 

How to Make A Global Impact And Operate As An Empath With Isabel Hundt

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I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Isabel Hundt and I learned a lot about trusting your gut and understanding people that are different from you. Listed below are some thoughts on the episode as well as questions to cause you to critically think in a way that allows you to use your difference to make a difference.

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When she was 12, Isabel had a vivid, prophetic dream. When she was 18, Isabel decided to venture to the U.S. to make it a reality. This dream stuck with her despite the difficulties she encountered on her journey, but wasn’t she sure how to make it real and didn’t understand where she was going wrong. As a result, she experienced some setbacks and fell into a deep state of anxiety, depression, and overwhelm. She didn’t know what to do about it, and started wondering, “Is this dream really for me?”

  • Sometimes, people let their dreams fade when they get too hard, or when they find themselves defining their identities through the lens of other people. Has this ever happened to you? If so, how did you deal with it?

  • Do you trust your gut? To what extent do you allow your intuition to influence the choices you make about your life?

  • Have the assumptions or doubts of others ever led you to question yourself, your dreams, or your path in life? How much weight did you give to those assumptions? What was the outcome?

  • What is a dream that you want to make a reality? What are you going to do about it?

At several points throughout her journey, Isabel tried to change her path, but always found herself coming back to that same vivid dream. Although she was deeply affected by the obstacles she faced and the negative assumptions of others, the recurrence of this dream was so impactful that it eventually  became her truth. It became so normal to her, that at the end of the day, there was no alternative and no option but to continue pursuing it.

  • Think about a big, maybe even outlandish dream you’ve had. How has it influenced your life up to this point? Is it at the forefront of everything you do, or does it live in the background while you focus on other pursuits?

  • How do you decide who to turn to when you feel lost, confused, or unable to figure out the next step?

  • Is there ever a point at which we should rethink our dreams or abandon them entirely?

  • When you find yourself faced with a seemingly insurmountable obstacle, how do you break out of your own mental prison and move forward?

After years of feeling disconnected and struggling with her identity, Isabel experienced a breakthrough during her ontological coaching training. Through working with her coach, she was able to confront her biases and work through her identity crisis. She came to understand that we are all connected on a spiritual level, and that where you’re from, what you do, and where you live do not define who you are. By finding her place “within”, she realized that home is a state of being within yourself, and not necessarily a physical place.

  • How do you characterize your identity?

  • What is it that defines you as a person?

  • How much does your career or professional life influence the way you view yourself?

  • Where is your home? What does “home” mean to you?

Transformational coaching deals with the inner workings of the individual (as opposed to external situations or circumstances), and always comes back to the question, “What’s going on inside of you?”

If we can learn to observe and understand our emotions, we are better able to connect with ourselves and communicate with others. This is no small task, as we are often faced with misunderstandings about what we feel, how we’re supposed to feel, and what emotions are good or bad. According to Isabel, “Your emotions are a reflection of your alignment with your soul.” By reflecting before reacting, and learning to express our emotions authentically and without judgment, we can cultivate a deeper level of understanding and connect with people all over the world.

  • Isabel says that, “Our first and foremost communication tools are our emotions.” Do you agree with this? Why or why not?

  • Do you feel a sense of alignment with your emotions? Is it ever difficult for you to understand why you feel the way you feel? How do you deal with that?

  • To what degree do external forces affect the way you view your emotions? Do you ever feel like you shouldn’t feel the way you feel? How do you overcome this?

  • Think of a time when you reacted before reflecting - what was the outcome? What would have been different if you’d reflected before reacting?

  • What role does your ego play in understanding your emotions, or the way you interact emotionally with those around you?

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Three Ways To Make An Impact Today!

I spent the last week being part of three panels in events filled with many current and aspiring thought leaders and we discussed a range of topics within the diversity, inclusion and leadership field.

My favorite things about being on panels is the moment when the audience gets to ask questions. You get to hear their pain points. One such pain point that kept coming up was how to get over the barrier of not feeling qualified enough or ready to start. Listed below are three things I recommended.

Be A Curator: If you're struggling with just starting, think about being a manager or overseer in your industry or field of interest. You can add value by sorting through large amounts of content on the web and presenting the best posts in a meaningful and organized way. The process can include sifting, sorting, arranging, and placing found content into specific themes, and then publishing that information. People will find value in this because you would have saved them time. It also allows you to become the Google of your niche.

Be A Creator: This one is self explanatory. It is the contribution of information to any media for an end-user. Typical forms of content creation include maintaining and updating web sites, blogging, photography, videography, online commentary, the maintenance of social media accounts, and other forms of digital media. If you do this right, people will find value in this because you will be able to be an educator and thought leader that people will crave information from. Your thoughts and opinions will help guide others as they make important decisions. You're essentially a mentor from afar.

Be A Connector: Connectors are the people in a community who know large numbers of people and who are in the habit of making introductions. If  you believe that this is you, create a list of as many people you know in your social, cultural, professional, and economic circles, and then make a habit of determining who needs to know who on a weekly basis. Once you have that list, make the intros. According to Malcolm Gladwell, connectors have some combination of curiosity, self-confidence, sociability, and energy. People will find value in this because you will literally be connecting people to things they need to grow.

You could identify as one of these, two of these or all three but whatever you discover, remember that doing is the best form of experience so go out today, do and use your difference to make a difference.

 

Did You Know You're A Star?

Let me tell you a story. A story about the life of stars. They can live for billions of years and in their lifetime, boy do they shine. ⭐️ 🌟

They glow during the day, but we can't see them because of the glare of sunlight. However, if you were standing on the moon where there is no atmosphere, you would see the stars both day and night.

So that means that even though, the clouds and the sun block them, they are always there. ⛅️ In fact, they shine brightest in the dark. 🌌

Now let’s talk about you and why you’re a star. Did you know that you can shine if you refuse to dampen your light? 🏋🏾‍♂️🏋🏿‍♀️💃🏽🕺🏾Conventional wisdom says you must wait for others to call you a star before you declare yourself one but If you want to be exceptional then by definition, being exceptional requires you to be an exception to the rule. Star in your life before someone else demotes you to a recurring cast member.

Just as a star lives up in the sky, live in the sky. Just as it holds itself together by the force of its own gravity, hold yourself together by the force of your identity. 
Just as it shines every day without fail even when we don't see it, show up everyday even when no one is watching. 
Just as it shines brightly in the dark, step into your lowest moments confidently knowing you have an opportunity to grow.

Steve Jobs once said your time is limited so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.

Start
Today
And
Reveal yourself
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⭐️ Use your difference to make a difference. ⭐️